RIGHT CHOICE IN MARRIAGE
Memorise: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? 2nd Corinthians 6:14
Read: 1st Kings 11:1-4, Bible in one year: Acts 14:1-16:15, Song of Solomon 4:1-8
Apart from the choice of who to serve, choosing who to marry is another fundamental choice that affects the destiny of an individual. A wrong choice in marriage can negatively affect the choice to serve God. Solomon chose to marry many strange women and they influenced him to forsake God and serve their idols. Solomon’s earlier decision to serve the Almighty God was badly affected by his marriages. A marriage partner can take Heaven away from the dreams of his or her spouse and replace it with Hell. Depending on who you choose to marry, your relationship with God will either continue to improve or it will stop all together. Solomon did not want to forget God who had done so much for him, but his marriage made him to err. It is vital to look at the factors that influence the choice we often make. There are always negative and positive factors guiding the choices we make. Whichever you allow to guide you will determine the kind of choice you will make. Many people make costly mistakes in the Bible either because they ignorantly made a choice or because they relied entirely on their knowledge. No matter how much you know, depending on God in making a choice is a sign of meekness and humility. It is however unfortunate that many young folks today don’t believe that God still chooses the right marriage partner for His obedient children. The Bible in Psalm 25:9 says:
“The meek will he guide in Judgment: and the meek will he teach his way.”
God guides the meek in judgement. Judgement in this context means decision, choice or preference.
You need basic knowledge in the areas where you have to make a choice. Nevertheless, after acquiring the requisite knowledge, you will need to depend on God.
chose a piece of land that he knew would be good for agriculture and he chose
to relocate there. His knowledge was perfect, but it was limited because he did
not know what the future held for that land. God later destroyed that land in
the overthrow of Sodom and Gomorrah
(Genesis 13:9-12). There is nothing wrong in making a choice, but
was that he did not seek God’s guidance in making his choice. Relying solely on
what you know in making a choice can cost you your whole life and mar your
eternal peace. As a youth, do you know enough about marriage before you dabble
into it? Do not choose by sight; having the relevant knowledge and God’s
guidance are key to making the best choice.
Father, please guide all our youths as they embark on choosing marriage partners.